Saturday, October 10, 2009

What is the definition for friendship?

昨天看了几个朋友都在写关于友谊的珍贵,我突感而发也来凑热闹,写几手。

记得前两个星期上的训练课程,关于negotiation skill. 老师有说过 "don't build the rapo during crisis". 除了在商业领域,其实在我们日常生活中也能应用此道理。

试想想,一个中学同学,你们有整7,8年没联络,连新年聚餐她也从不出席。突然她打电话给你,请你帮她个忙, 又或者她请你出席她的婚宴,你会有什么反应?“无事不登三宝殿”,“有唔搞错” 等等词汇可能会出现在你脑海里。或许你会答应,但你心里其实还会有点不爽。

现在面子书非常 “方便”,你可以从那连系你多年不见的同学,看看大伙现在在哪混,她的结婚照,或者她的孩子今天又增几公斤了等等。是不是酱就代表你们有联系,混得很熟了呢?

有些人的面子书friend list 长达千人以上,我会纳闷,她能记得全部人的全名,在哪认识他们吗?认识的人不一定是你的朋友,你的朋友肯定是你的认识的人?科技越进步,不见得人与人之间的感情就会进步。

其实我有如此深的“领悟”,也是因为我被“无事不登三宝殿”的无谓人烦了好几天。平时不常见面,就算有见面彼此也很少会 “寒暄”几句,因为彼此都不ngam key,搭不上。现在紧急关头才临时找我抱佛脚。或许我比较讲原则和固执,恕我不买这种烂帐。我没这义务随时standby为你服务。

朋友是用时间一点一点累积的,不是需要对方才想到 “我有这个朋友”。请搞清楚朋友和认识的人的定义。

4 comments:

Yee Meng said...

friend, just remember..
there are few types of friends u can categorize...
some are ur best friends whom u can really talk or pour out ur feelings or can help u when u r in deep shit,
some being common friends that u can just go/hang out with for shopping or entertainment...
some just being hi and bye and u just know them a bit but not too much...
From there, u kinda know what to expect from them lor...
anyway, my theory is to have more friends than to have more enemies...
Most important is to have one or two best friends or buddies who are there to help u when need them most!
Agree?

Blue Chin said...

朋友贵精不贵多

Yee Meng said...

ya, u r right!

Samantha Loh said...

朋友?要成为朋友是2 way traffic 的。有些人当你是朋友。但那个人就很moody。 喜欢就和你都说两句。不喜欢就话也不多说。

 

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